Acceptance is often confused with the notion of being “all right” or “OK” with what has happened. This is not the case. Most people don’t ever feel OK or all right about the loss of a loved one. This stage is about accepting the reality that our loved one is physically gone and recognizing that this new reality is the permanent reality. We will never like this reality or make it OK, but eventually we accept it. We learn to live with it. It is the new norm with which we must learn to live. We must try to live now in a world where our loved one is missing. In resisting this new norm, at first many people want to maintain life as it was before a loved one died. In time, through bits and pieces of acceptance, however, we see that we cannot maintain the past intact. It has been forever changed and we must readjust. We must learn to reorganize roles, re-assign them to others or take them on ourselves.
Finding acceptance may be just having more good days than bad ones. As we begin to live again and enjoy our life, we often feel that in doing so, we are betraying our loved one. We can never replace what has been lost, but we can make new connections, new meaningful relationships, new inter-dependencies. Instead of denying our feelings, we listen to our needs; we move, we change, we grow, we evolve. We may start to reach out to others and become involved in their lives. We invest in our friendships and in our relationship with ourselves. We begin to live again, but we cannot do so until we have given grief its time.
MY THOUGHTS: Acceptance is not that easy. It's a process and therefore you need to experience situations that would really put you to the test. But once you take hold of it, everything seems more meaningful.
GOD has given me another chance and not anyone has this opportunity. That's why I shall make this second life more meaningful and be of service to the people who need help.
Life is too short to dwell with revenge, sadness, and guilt. If we dwell on this we won't be a better person.
I decided to embrace my condition. It might bot be a condition where I cannot be proud of but at least I can say that this condition taught me a lot of lessons in life and it made me STRONGER and a BETTER MAN.
Acceptance relieved me from the shackles of torturous pain.
I feel better now and I gained confidence.
My advocacy aims to help people who are newly diagnosed, I've been there and so I don't want them too feel so alone in this world. They need all the love and support, and so I'm here for them. I also advocate for early detection since it would really help a lot if you were able to know about your HIV status at an earlier stage, with the help of the doctor and medical team, it would be possible that you could live a normal life. Also everyone has the right to know the FACTS and the TRUTH about HIV and I believe we should be given RESPECT and be given the life that we want away from STIGMA and DISCRIMINATION.
I am very much thankful for all the people who accepted me as to who I really am. For my parents who showed their support and love. For my best friend who was always there for me and always listened to what I was sharing to him. To my Fellow PLHIV's who gave their support and helped me out to be in this ADVOCACY. And other significant others who made my life more meaningful and full of love. I OWE IT ALL TO YOU!
At times, people in grief will often report more stages. Just remember your grief is unique as you are.
JaKe Positive. BE SAFE! +)